Bring a person, not a performance
Present yourself substantially as you are now. Use your own images and words. Do not invent a profession, age, identity or personal history. Accomplishment can speak quietly; ambition does not need to apologize.
Interest is never a debt
A message, compliment, dinner or gift does not create an obligation. Every person controls their time, attention, physical boundaries and decisions. A no, a pause or silence must be respected without punishment or repeated persuasion.
Do not turn trust into leverage
Do not pressure anyone for money, banking access, investments, identity documents, intimate images or private information. Do not threaten exposure, use discretion as a weapon or make support conditional on romantic or sexual attention.
Discretion should protect—not isolate
Privacy can be reasonable. Demands that someone hide a meeting from every trusted person, surrender independent transportation or avoid public venues are different. Members should be free to tell a friend where they are and to leave when they choose.
Disagreement still needs dignity
Do not harass, demean, stalk, threaten or discriminate. Do not publish another person’s messages or images without permission. If interest ends, close the conversation calmly or stop responding.
Reports are part of community care
Report conduct that may breach this code. Include the profile name, approximate date and relevant evidence if it is safe to do so. Support may review, warn, limit or remove access. Enforcement details may remain private to protect people and the integrity of the review.
Last reviewed: 3 September 2026